Boys, boys, boys…

Thanks for your comments!  It seems that those out there want to hear about boy drama, eh?  Shocker!   So I will regale you with a tale from about 2 weeks ago…

Since I’ve been out here in San Francisco, I’ve been markedly unimpressed by the quality of men I’ve met.  Everyone attractive is either gay or married!  So imagine my surprise when i finally met a cute, single, straight boy!  Due to my previous job in food retail, I got all kinds of perks -25% off cheese, and discounts at the other vendors in the Ferry Building.  A lot of vendors would even comp us on occasion.  So right before my last week of work, a colleague and I decided to take this discounting advantage to unknown territory – the caviar bar.  I had always been intrigued by the caviar bar.  The crowds who can afford it, the hot men behind the counter, the pink champagne and tiny blinis.  So I sauntered up to the bar, plopped myself down, and introduced myself to JP – the sexy, scruffy man behind the bar.  Upon hearing I was from the cheese shop, he took my menu away from me and told me “not to worry about it.”  By the time my colleague (let’s call her 23, cause that’s her age) showed up, I was well into my first glass of champagne and ready for the caviar adventure to come.  JP was a gracious (and sexy) host, constantly refilling our glasses and providing us with an array of caviars to sample.  He was also a sweet and chatty one, with a master’s degree to boot!  I left full of bubbly and with a crush on JP.  Want!

Flash to the next few days – I’d stop by the caviar bar to chat from time, he’d stop by the cheese store, my goal was to give him my number before my last day.  Then one day, 23 and I were both working, and he invited us to a party that night!  So I swung by the caviar bar on my way out and asked him for the details….and we exchanged numbers – woohoo!  I was feeling pretty good about things.

So 23 and I met at a bar before the party to have a drink.  She told me that she thinks JP’s cute, obv I concur.  Then she told me that she’s in not 1, not 2, but 3 open relationships at the moment.  I’m sorry, what?  How does one stay in 3 open relationships?  Who is okay with this?  We went to the bar, and JP immediately greeted us and offered drinks.  Bonus points! However, as the night wore on, it became apparent that not only was he flirting with both of us, but 23 was practically throwing herself on him.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t care for competing for a guy.  At the same time, she kept telling me we should have a threesome…also something I’m not interested in doing.  Then she decided she wanted to get high.  So JP suggested we go to his apartment.  We ended up drinking more over there, smoking hash (something I’ve never done) and watching The Office on his bed.  Awkward!!!  Soon I found myself falling asleep, when I looked over and saw the two of them hooking up.  I pretty much leaped off the bed and ran out the door.  And that was that.  23 has text messaged me a few times since them, obviously no word from JP.  I am a little embarrassed that I put myself in that situation.  And a little disappointed that JP went for the 23 year old.  But not surprised….

Anyway, there have also been some (anticlimactic) dates with various boys since then.  But overall, I’m still unimpressed with the dating scene out here.  Much harder than in New York!

Forgive me readers, for I have sinned

I have failed you as a blogger.  I have not been providing content, interesting or not.  I have been constructing witty(?) posts in my head whilst walking, at the gym, etc, and not been sitting down at the computer to write.  If there are any of you out there, I apologize.

I’ve been in a writing rut lately, despite the many good things happening.  The past few weeks have been full of awesome happenings – a new job, mommy coming to visit, a president I actually voted for being inaugurated, boy drama (not awesome boy drama, but that’s fun to read about, right?), and some pretty good nights out.  So I will resolve to be a better blogger, to continue the narcissism of blogging about my daily ins and outs, and hopefully try to entertain

Oh, and weekly weigh-in shall resume.  Last week I was up to 144, today I’m 140.  Progress?

Weekly Weigh-In

Current weight: 141.5
Loss: 0

Okay, so I stayed the same. That’s a positive, right? Especially after a kinda crazy new year’s eve/day. I decided today that I’m going to keep a food journal. Yet another way to hold myself accountable. I also hope that in my new job (oh, did I mention that?) I will be able to maintain a more normal eating schedule. Working around cheese all day, while fun, can be too tempting.

An interview!

When Jen, one of my favorite bloggers, offered to interview her readers, I thought it might be fun. She provided me with some tough and thought-provoking questions! Thanks, Jen

1- In your dating experience so far, what would be the most valuable lesson you’ve learned?

Toughie! How about don’t date a guy who’s friends with his ex? No, in all seriousness, honesty and trust are the keys to a relationship. Without them, you have nothing. I lacked both in my last relationship. Had he been honest about this ex, and trusted our relationship enough to let us meet, things might have been different. Lies and deceit complicate everything. And trust your gut instincts. I always thought something was up and it turned out I was right!

2- What do you miss (or miss not) most from living in NYC?

I miss so much about NY – the public transportation, being near my good friends, but mostly I miss the energy of the city. Everyone is on the go, but so friendly and nice and busy. The pace of life in manhattan is phenomenal, and no other city compares to it.  I don’t miss the cold, especially when it gets snowy and slushy.

3- If you just had one last vacation left, where would you go and why?

Probably South America, because I’ve never been. I have some friends who are going there for 2 months. I heard them talk about their travel plans, and am extremely jealous.  I’d want to take a really long trip, like them, and explore, while brushing up on my Spanish.  It would be equal parts fun/adventure (hiking, etc) and relaxation (beach time).  But I wouldn’t want it to be a solo trip (a la my European adventure).  Definitely need a good friend, or lovah to share in my last vacation.

4- What constitutes for you an ideal day?

Morning sex, a run, excellent brunch, afternoon sex, dinner at a new restaurant, a movie/concert/drinks, evening sex   I guess that’s my ideal relationship day.  But since I’m single, an ideal day is one spent relaxing with friends and family.  I like to be around people.  When I’m alone, an ideal day is one where I accomplish something (even something minor, like going to the gym, or grocery shopping…or hey, a blog post!) and get to reward myself with a movie or a new book.  This question keeps getting harder to answer!

5- What do you think will be your most difficult resolution to achieve in 2009 and why?

I didn’t really do the resolution thing on any serious level this year. I think 2009 is going to be all about self-improvement and being the best that I can be. Another marathon should be in store, hopefully weight loss, but also continuing education and improving my social life. The only hurdle here will be myself.

Thanks again for the interview, Jen!  If anyone wants 5 questions from me, just give a shout.